Downsizing your living space because of poor health requires all of your coping skills. This is happening to me. After almost four years on disability, I can no longer afford my home. In my head, I know that moving to an apartment will mean less money spent each month. No property taxes, homeowner’s insurance, or mortgage to pay. It will mean fewer rooms to clean, and fewer rooms to heat or cool. Hopefully, that will mean I’ll have more energy to do the things I want to do. I should also have an easier time paying my bills each month.
However, it will also mean that I have to say good-bye to the home that I’ve lived in for 10 years. The home that I raised my kids in as a single mom. I will somehow have to get rid of enough stuff to fit into an apartment. It means trying to find affordable housing for myself and my 17 year old high school student. It means worrying about when my daughter will find a place of her own. I will have to learn how to navigate my days without being surrounded by my kids and their friends. It means most likely having to leave my dog behind.
Most likely, I will need to live in public housing. That is something I never thought would be in my future. I know that my God will place me just where I need to be so that He can carry out His work in me and in the people He places near me.
However, the whole downsizing process fills me with grief and overwhelm and a great deal of wishing things were different. I know that I need to focus on the pluses, but just for today I need to grieve over the changes. If you are facing losses due to your chronic illness, it’s okay to mourn. We don’t always have to be smiling and happy. Here is what I’m going to do to help me cope with this change in my life.
- Remind myself that I have survived changes in the past and I will survive this one too.
- Go ahead and cry, then wipe my tears and do the next small thing that needs done.
- Figure out what I need help with.
- Ask for help! My friends and loved ones want to help; tell them what I need.
- Use whatever works for me to relieve stress.
- Get all the hugs I can.
- Remind myself that it is the people in my home that make it home, not the building.
Moving is a huge stressor and it’s going to take all my coping skills to get through, because I am already not feeling well. If you are facing this situation, I would love to hear from you. We can encourage each other. I plan on keeping you, my readers, updated on this transition. Hopefully, something I write will help you or someone you know if this happens to them.
And finally, I’ve included this link to an article about stress and moving. You can read more about my downsizing journey here. Till next time. Kathy